The Art of Winning Blog

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Finding Yourself after an Assault

The NY Times recently printed an article, "Nearly 1 in 5 Women in US Survey Say They Have Been Sexually Assaulted", that gives some pretty staggering stats on sexual assault in the US. Of these women, 20% are raped before age 10, 50% before 18, and 80% before 25. Though men are raped much less often (1 in 75), the vast majority of these occur before the age of 10.

Even more staggering to me, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 5 men report having been beaten by an intimate partner.

People who have been vicitimized experience greater likelihood to poor health decisions, like smoking, and are more likely to suffer from diseases like diabetes, irritable bowel, and headaches.

While these articles give us great access to content, they fail to provide solutions. The field of psychology has a multitude of research on the effects of trauma on the body and somatic psychology does a fantastic job of helping a person become functional, a survivor. If you've been a victim of an assault, there is something you can do recapture the person you want to be.

Yoga and meditation help you reconnect with your inner self. You take control of your most primary system, your breath, and use it guide your inner experience. Endurance activities like running release endorphins and give you intimate knowledge of your strength and capabilities. Classes like glass-blowing or painting help you connect with your creative self and you can re-learn the safety of being vulnerable. This assault doesn't need to define, it's another component of your past and you have control over your relationship with it.

To-Shin Do (r) gives you the opportunity to redefine your relationship with violence and with owning your own power. Self defense is about living your brightest and happiest life. It's about excellent decision making, finding your center, and learning to recognizing danger. Using an elemental model, we explore stability, intelligence, action, and freedom as critical components of self defense. We use breath, postures, voice, and interactions to bring all aspects of ourselves into this present moment. It's about becoming a hero, not just for others, but for yourself.

There are many practices to help you live as a Warrior. Yoga  If the ninja path resonates with you, try a free class. If the ninja path doesn't resonate with you, please find something that does. The world needs you to be your brightest.

No comments:

Stephen K. Hayes Pro Shop

1501 Lee Hill Road #18|Boulder, Colorado 80304|Phone: 303.440.3647|Email: